Wednesday, August 25, 2010

And there were tears all around

Yesterday, the boys started daycare. T, of course, greeted school as an adventure. He ran off to play, barely noticed that I left, and even chose to stay for the afternoon when I came to get F at 12:30. He talked excitedly all evening about all the fun stuff he did at school and was super excited to go back this morning.

F's reaction was very different. He was completely happy as long as I sat on the floor with him (yesterday, 2 hours and today for an hour). If I so much as got up to walk across the room the waterworks started. After I got him down for his morning nap yesterday, I left him for about an hour and half. The teachers said that when he got up he was in a good mood and only cried a few times. So I guess that's good news. Today was much the same. I stayed for an hour today, because I have to leave to get a tooth filled (woohoo!). He was happily eating puffs when I kissed him on his fuzzy head and told him goodbye. The teachers distracted him, but he saw me leaving and the crying was loud and constant. :( When we got pregnant with F, I thought "well, he'll be almost a year when I start school." Of course, I expected another baby like T. T would have been totally OK with daycare at 10 months. F, not so much.

Yes, I know it's going to get better. Yes, I know school is the right thing for our family. Yes, I know it's only 3 days a week. None of those things stopped my tears or made it any easier. It makes the idea of just delaying school for a few more years seem very attractive. Is this actually the right decision?

7 comments:

Becky said...

I'm sorry Sisterface. This process sounds like no fun at all.

For what it's worth, I think you're making the right decision. You were super worried about leaving F with Jo and Cathy and that turned out okay. I'm sure this will too!

jp said...

It is and I'm sure it will get better......but it would melt me too :(

ldupbeat said...

You are a wonderful Mom Jenn and Finley will forgive you. Kids are really more resilient then we are, if only we could bounce back as well as they do, but our adult knowledge somehow impedes that LOL. Hang in there! Don't cry too much, be a good example for Finley :)

Mom said...

Yes you are making the right decision. Being in school for 2 years so you can be home and work part time until the kids are 18. Good choice

Plus you are going to make an awesome nurse.

Jo said...

Crying when you leave is hard, mostly on you though Jenn. F is just doing what you expect him to do - cry when you leave. Being OK with day care? - what's not to like - friends, snacks and fun activities. You chose carefully. Now go and be a nurse!!

Jube said...

Thanks folks. It helps to hear that I'm not going to scar my kids. It's still a tough thing to deal with, especially since it's a decision I'm choosing to make, not one I have to make for financial reasons.

ldupbeat said...

You don't have to for financial reasons, but your doing it for humanity as well as yourself. I've never heard a kid say they were sorry their mom (or dad) was a nurse. It is an honorable profession that helps all of mankind.

 
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